Denial

Denial is a strong, strong, strong, strong, strong thing.  Having a massive stroke at the age of 30 – kind of a big deal.  I had some people in my life that wanted to act like everything was OK after a few months and that I just got kinda sick.  NOPE.  Everything not OK.  Everything might never again be OK.  I mean I’ll be OK – I don’t know about some other people who I know.  If you had something life changing happen to you, especially something awful and devastating and traumatic, you have to deal with that shit.  Don’t pretend like things are fine, they’re so not fine.  One of my favorite things that Dr. Phil says is “you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.”  I love Dr. Phil, although lately that show has been annoying me because I wanna beat up all of his guests.  Anyway, some people I know need to acknowledge some stuff.



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7 replies

  1. Those are the people I eliminated. Most of my family. :0 I don’t know how I got mixed up with them all in the first place. I didn’t need a major crisis to help me know what to do when crisis strikes another. You just help, listen, and be there….its not complicated, but my people missed the memo. Ugh!!

  2. I got so irked by people saying, “everything happens for a reason,” that I’ve decided to say, “this shouldn’t have happened,” the next time tragedy strikes someone I know. I should not have had a stroke; yes, there are good things that have come from having a stroke – not enough to make up for the bad things – but it should not have happened to a fit, happy 52-year-old with no risk factors. It was a fluke, but other people are comforted by that tripe about there being a reason, so I have to listen to it?

  3. I have a friend who suffered an anoxic brain injury due to cardiac arrest the day before her 48th birthday about 7 years ago. She has made a monumental recovery and continues to improve. Some tell her she should be over it by now and think she should stop bringing it up or accuse her of using her brain injury as an excuse. They expect her to do things that continue to stretch her beyond her limits (e.g. drive across town to socialize at night after a taxing day.) Strokes and brain injuries affect survivors 24/7 for the rest of their lives, not just for the time that survivors are in the company of others. I get frustrated when anyone says someone should “be over” any major life changing experience, whether it is an illness, a death or any other circumstance. Unless we “live it” under the exact same circumstances, which is impossible, we have NO idea what others are experiencing. Go Amy!!!

  4. And you help me attempt to come as close as possible to “experiencing” a stroke without literally walking in your shoes. Your insights and honesty are very much appreciated!!!

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