Someone recently had the audacity to say to me that I should consider changing the way I write because 2 people who have not had a stroke or a brain injury of any kind thought that my blog had too much anger in it.  So instead of defending me to these people who have never gone through this hell, this person chose to tell me that I should lighten up and change and made me feel bad for venting on my blog.  Which is what a blog is for.  I have never asked anyone to read this and never will.  If you think that my blog is too negative, then don’t read it.  I won’t be affected in the least little bit if you choose the option of not putting my URL in your web browser.  Not in the least.little.bit.

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44 replies

  1. Hell, send them to my blog if they want to see what real negativity is.

  2. Someone who said that to you bothers me as much as, if not more, than people who believe certain books and television shows should be banned because they disagree with their content. Ridiculous! If one dislikes it, stay the hell away from it. Don’t force your beliefs on others!

  3. Seriously? A stroke survivor told you you should change to accommodate non-survivors? Has he/she realized what he/she is suggesting?

    You are angry – and honest. I wouldn’t swap honesty for anything.

  4. You should never, ever change your blog (or yourself) to suit someone else, survivor or non-survivor. You are my go to writer in the stroke blogosphere because of your honesty and yes, your anger. I am very angry, but no longer alone in my anger because of you (and Dean). When I recover (and I will even if I’m 90 when it finally happens), my stroke memoir is going to be called “The Power of Negative Thinking”. I will be famous and give a Ted talk during which I verbally abuse audience members who smile. Grumpy Cat will want to have her picture taken with me. I will become filthy rich before I die, by my own hand of course, at the age of 105. After my death, my greeting cards will sell for zillions of dollars on ebay and my heirs will start a foundation for homeless cats in my memory. In case you hadn’t guessed, I have a very rich and active imagination. Which is good, since now, post-stroke, I am neither rich nor active.

  5. There is a difference between negativity and tell it like it is. You tell it like it is.

  6. Yeah, I’ve also received criticism for my (oddly, relentlessly positive) blog relayed by people other than those who anonymously throw rocks. Glad you’re still feeling the “doing it for myself” thing — fits in nicely with the tradition of journaling in the face of (small “t”) trauma. And if we’re incidental beneficiaries, so much the better. Keep on keeping on.

  7. Amy: they are crazy…we love you no matter what you say…you bring great info to people that deal with stroke…Positive energy is good but that has to come from the individual. Everybody cant always be positive no matter how hard they try…Here is a saying that Jay and I have…He says ” I wish I could ride my mountain bike like I use to.” I say well you cant so ” Deal with it”…we laugh!

    • Glad it helps you guys! 🙂

    • Debbie – Do you really say that to Jay? I may be negative, but I’m not cruel and in my opinion what you said to Jay is cruel. You say he laughs, but maybe you give him no choice. If someone spoke to me that way my response would be to break down and weep. Perhaps you should think less about being positive and more about being compassionate.

  8. Right on, Amy. Indeed, that is the essence of blogging, saying whatever you want, like fuck or shit or doodyhead! Keep at it. I love your posts!

  9. I agree with the others… yourself, and keep sharing what is going on with you.

  10. didn’t see this one till today, redickulas suggestion, just keep blogging away your way ! It’s good reading, and helps

  11. Amy, I’m reposting re this entry because, while writing a blog entry for myself, I realized this post is a bunch of crap: you might do a little ranting in your posts, but you are clearly not an angry person. For every comment a reader posts, you post a kind, encouraging, supportive response. Your comments come from the heart of a sweet positive person, not an angry negative one. Every once in a while you experience and express righteous anger (and some amusing sarcasm), but that’s it.

  12. Thank you everyone for all your support. All from people I’ve never met in person. The more I think about what was said to me the angrier I get. Thank you all for having my back.

  13. Amy, I do not think your blogs are full of anger! My husband had a cerebellar stroke July 2013 and your blog has helped me understand his situation, how to help him and guided us towards therapy that would be helpful. Keep on blogging girl 🙂

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