Lies, lies, lies

When I got sick, I was dating what I now know is the most dishonest and deceitful man I have ever met in my entire life.  I am now dating the most honest and genuine man I have ever met.  It’s like night and day.  A friend that I recently had a falling out with told some lies.  My doctors told lies.  Look, please don’t lie.  Especially to stroke survivors.  People with brain injuries are already, automatically incredibly, incredibly angry.  Being lied to or finding out that a lie was told about them makes that anger so very much worse.  Once you’re caught in a lie, everything you ever say will be questioned.

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain

“I have a higher and grander standard of principle than George Washington. He could not lie; I can, but I won’t.” – Mark Twain
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Categories: Brain stuff, Health, Stroke stuff

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19 replies

  1. Amy, you are so right. Lying helps nothing. The problem is that the intention has to be right to start. When you care for someone, you know not to lie. Marta

  2. “due to your track record of being a lying liar that constantly lies out of your lying liar hole” – this cracked me up. My husband is staring at me at my desk because I started laughing when I read it.
    You’re right – lies suck. There is little reason to keep liars in your life – it drains you – and we have already been drained enough.

    • That’s why I had to get out I guess. I was so drained from the stroke I had absolutely nothing left, I couldn’t be drained by anything else, it would have killed me.

  3. Bravo! The only thing that made me angrier than a co-worker lying about me, was our boss believing the lies. Loyalty, right?

  4. At least your more experienced to spotting them and not letting them close. A Doctor is super rough though, I am sorry to hear that.

  5. Amy, you were so strong to get that jerk out of your life. And Patrick’s a peach.

  6. Oh, so you must have been dating my exhusband. Yep, unloading the garbage sure feels good!! Good for you!!

  7. I love the Mark Twain quote you added. This man was truly before his time

  8. Yes Amy. But if you hadn’t had such a louse of a boyfriend to begin with how would you know what a great one you have now?

  9. I think I would have preferred my doctor tell me anything, including lies, but he managed to not say a single thing about my stroke. It was like listening to chit-chat.

  10. Yeah. We had no idea what we got ourselves into. LAST summer/end of the school year (over a year ago now) I remember telling you via email that I hoped zack could stay home alone and watch charley while I worked. HAH! I had no flipping idea what had just transpired. I feel a little stupid when I look back and realize how ignorant I was. But, idk, I think it may have been a good thing, too, that nobody told us a darn thing.

    Btw. We are atill paying a nanny to stay THIS school year with both zack and charley. Although, I will say, he doesn’t really “need” it. He just can’t do food very well still. Everything else is fine. And he still is a fall risk, but anyone in a wheel chair is, I suppose. I just keep saying, “maybe next year” I might say it forever, but I will keep saying it. Maybe by next year that godforsaken wheel chair will be gone. We are going to have a party and light fire to a symbol of it when he is completely out of it. (We have to-gladly- give this one back when he is done since insurance is renting it for him)

    • I bet next school year you won’t need it.

    • Taking care of my son was the hardest thing I had to do. I had to start only a few hours at a time and increased very slowly. My son is VERY energetic and stopped napping way before I was ready, so I needed help for a long time. We ended up sending him to preschool earlier than i would have, but it was just too hard for me. My son loved it though, and is doing great, starting kinder in a few weeks. My husband was able to adjust his schedule to let me nap most days(he ownes his own business). If it wasn’t for him being able to help me, I couldn’t have done it. Point is…its really hard, but you guys will get there with a plan and maybe some modifications at first. ALL of my therapy revolved around the goal of me taking care of my son. We broke down each task and worked on them individually…putting it all together was extra hard, but it also helped me recover. Good news is when he can take care of her, he will be ready for a bunch of other things: driving, lite housework, etc. You guys will get there! Cheering u on!!!

  11. Yes, and as every rowing season approaches, I think, “this is the year I’m going to row again.” Determined – and disappointed – every year so far.

    • Brooke, I didn’t mean my comment to come across so negative. I’m sure Zack will be back and I will row again, but obviously it’s not something we can KNOW in advance, but can just HOPE for. Especially the timing of what we hope for.

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